By Bo Sanchez From his book: You Have the Power to Create Love
ADULTERY happens when you start looking for what you don’t have.
“Bo, this girl in my office is a real looker,” many a husband will say. “But it’s not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I’m head over heels with her because she’s also understanding, intelligent, tender– so many things that my wife is not.”, Sure.
Guys, trust me on this. Somewhere along the way, you’ll find a woman who will be more charming. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Be a better cook. Have greater sex appeal. Be a more efficient housekeeper. And you will find a woman who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your wife ever did. Because no wife is perfect. Because a wife will only have 90% of what you’re looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband looks for the missing 10%.
Let’s say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: “I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha…” Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt. Or because your wife is the quiet type (a rare find), your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host like Oprah.
But wait! That’s only 10% of what you don’t have.
Don’t throw away the 90% that you already have!
That’s not all. Add to your wife’s 90% the 1000% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you’ve accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.
But I’m not just talking about marriage. I’m talking about life! About your jobs. About your friends. About your children. About your prayer groups. About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he’s missing? “They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they’ve got personal videos!” I guarantee you’ll be miserable for the entire trip!
Don’t live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. (Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class — because they’re not riding in a private Lear Jet?)
My main message: If you start thanking God for what you have right now, wherever you are… is first class! You have wealth under your nose. Thank Him.
